New Year’s Resolution
Nizar al Musalmy –
I have always kept a tradition of having a New Year’s resolution at the end of every year. At a time like now I normally go ahead and make a promise to do an act of self-improvement or something slightly nice, such as opening a door for the mother of junior beginning from New Year’s Day. In the past years, it has always been my habit to make promises to myself that come the new year, I will do such and such a thing like eat healthy foods only, lose weight, exercise more, always wear ‘musar’ (headgear), stop biting my nails, get rid of old bad habits, always think positively, laugh more often, enjoy life, get out of debt, save money, make small investments, perform better at current job, get a better job, establish own business, improve grades, get a better education, learn something new every day, read more books, improve talents, become more organised, reduce stress, be less grumpy, manage time, be more independent, perhaps watch less television, play fewer sitting-down video games, take a trip, volunteer to help others, practise life skills and volunteer to work part-time in a charity organisation.
My practice was to leave no stone unturned and work tirelessly to ensure that I set New Year’s resolutions every January 1. I even go to the extent of committing myself to get along better with people, improve social skills and enhance social intelligence. I have had a history of even resorting to make new friends, spend quality time with family members and become more involved in sports or different activities. I even, at one point in time, made a plea in the name of a New Year resolution: to lock out on the bad news.
I have always been consistent on this and all the time I say to myself that this year will be better than ever before. And this year was no exception; but just before I was ready to start planning for a resolution, I thought I should contemplate before I engage myself. And when I did ponder on the past experience, I realised that I have always failed when it came to keeping those so called New Year’s resolution.
Every time I make a New Year’s resolution, I become so committed to it and before February I realise that all resolutions that I made are significantly unrealistic and out of alignment with my internal view of myself. This principle reflects that of making positive affirmations. I find myself making positive affirmations about myself that I don’t really believe in. Those positive affirmations not only fail to work, but also tend to affect my self-esteem. When I make a resolution to, say, lose weight or reduce your debts, or exercise more, I take it for granted that my entire life will change, and when it doesn’t, I get discouraged and then I revert back to old behaviours and completely ignore the resolution.
I know change is healthy and indeed possible but I think it takes more than just having New Year’s resolutions. So this year, my New Year’s resolution is not to have any New Year’s resolution. Happy New Year!